I have envisioned my funeral more times than I have even thought of my wedding. I know what I want to be written on my tomb stone which is why I know I am not ready to die yet. Envisioning my funeral is a motivation for me to work harder towards achieving my goals in life, towards being a better person and towards living a life I want to be proud of. In a way, it reminds me of my purpose, my mission and the kind of legacy I wish to leave behind.
There are questions I ask myself and I’ll share a few in this post just to guide someone who is as desirous of growth as I am because Knowing where you want to go helps you build a strong foundation for your mission.
What do you want people to say about you? Personally, I want all the eulogies to be unique. Different stories from different people. Let people talk about you like they knew you personally not generally. The connections we make with others, how we relate to others says a lot about us so what people say about you describes how you lived your life and the type of person you were. So what do you want people to say about you? What kind of person do you think they’ll say you were?
This year I am reading the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey and I wasn’t surprised to find Stephen covey challenging us to envision our funerals in his 2nd Habit – begin with the end in mind. Envisioning your funeral helps you to find your purpose. It gives you a sense of direction towards what you want to achieve, what you want to be your legacy and the kind of person you want to be.
“What contributions, what achievements would you want them to remember?”
This is the question that’s always at the back of my mind when I imagine my headstone. What will be my legacy? This challenges me to have a mission which will lead to a lasting legacy for my name. Make an impact on someone’s life and you will be remembered for it. Your legacy is your mission.
What do you wish people knew about you?
Regret.. The worst we can ever feel. There are parts of ourselves that we keep hidden even when we shouldn’t. People don’t have to know everything about you, I get that but if you ever get the chance to show the world who you are and what you can do then take the moment and act upon it. This question helps me to explore and stand out so that I don’t have to regret anything in the future.
Envision your funeral and let it guide to find your purpose and mission that will lead to your legacy.
“Begin with the end in mind.” – Stephen R. Covey